If there's one thing I've learned in my life, it's that the mirror is one's worst enemy.
The issue with mirrors is that often what you see in the reflection is what you want to see and not the reality of it. Your mind distorts the image to fit your own presumptions of yourself. You can feel good about yourself and see a slimmer and cool you in the mirror, only to be the complete opposite. And the same works the other way round as well; you can see yourself as a fat slob, only to be skinny and charming.
In either case, no matter which way your mind distorts the image, one thing will be certain; an objective view on oneself will not be listened to. I know because I've done it myself and I've tried to be an objective voice as well. Rarely will the words be taken kindly or with any hint of belief.
The peer sentimentality of this society is the driving force behind the thinking of one's inadequacies. The fashion- and beauty-fixated world forces people to conform to become one of the mass and it's gone to the point of having to wear dresses made of meat or tennis balls just to rebel against the dress ideals that are upheld in the media these days. "You need to dress beautifully to be noticed" "You need to be thin to be beautiful" - utter bullshit and fashion propaganda. No matter what you do, there will be people who think of you as beautiful and there will be people who think of you as ugly and everything in between those two extremes. But people will notice if you stress too much over what you look like.
The most important thing in life is to find your own happy place. If you feel good, find your own way of dressing and feel comfortable, then people will notice it.
What men want is not what's shown on the cover of fashion magazines. Men like regular women, not size-zero skeletons. The point of fashion magazines is to make you feel like shit so you will buy shit in an effort to make yourself feel better about yourself. You don't need to get into that rat race.
The issue with mirrors is that often what you see in the reflection is what you want to see and not the reality of it. Your mind distorts the image to fit your own presumptions of yourself. You can feel good about yourself and see a slimmer and cool you in the mirror, only to be the complete opposite. And the same works the other way round as well; you can see yourself as a fat slob, only to be skinny and charming.
In either case, no matter which way your mind distorts the image, one thing will be certain; an objective view on oneself will not be listened to. I know because I've done it myself and I've tried to be an objective voice as well. Rarely will the words be taken kindly or with any hint of belief.
The peer sentimentality of this society is the driving force behind the thinking of one's inadequacies. The fashion- and beauty-fixated world forces people to conform to become one of the mass and it's gone to the point of having to wear dresses made of meat or tennis balls just to rebel against the dress ideals that are upheld in the media these days. "You need to dress beautifully to be noticed" "You need to be thin to be beautiful" - utter bullshit and fashion propaganda. No matter what you do, there will be people who think of you as beautiful and there will be people who think of you as ugly and everything in between those two extremes. But people will notice if you stress too much over what you look like.
The most important thing in life is to find your own happy place. If you feel good, find your own way of dressing and feel comfortable, then people will notice it.
What men want is not what's shown on the cover of fashion magazines. Men like regular women, not size-zero skeletons. The point of fashion magazines is to make you feel like shit so you will buy shit in an effort to make yourself feel better about yourself. You don't need to get into that rat race.